Thanks so much to everyone for all your encouraging words yesterday. I made the super nice young doctor check my follicles before my IUI, and I had indeed not ovulated yet. The IUI hurt like a mother (get it, like a mother? ha, ha, ha), which was new for me, it hasn't bothered me much in the past. I had some pretty bad cramping in the afternoon and evening. I'm certain I ovulated between about 7 and 10pm because the stabbing pain coming from my right ovary could not be ignored. Sort of like Alex in "Fatal Attraction." Again, that was kind of unusual, but I thought maybe it was because there were two follicles bursting over there.
Anyways, the pain forced me to lay down on the couch for awhile. I grabbed the remote, and since my husband was upstairs I punched away with reckless abandon. I started with the basic mindless fare of "Queer Eye"and then moved down the dials to CMT (kind of an interesting documentary about the history country music, and I'm not even a country music fan per se.) "The Birdcage" with Robin Williams was on the Oxygen channel. I never noticed that Calista Flockhart plays the fiance in that movie - it was before Ally McBeal. I moved on past ESPN and caught a little bit of "Baseball Tonight." PBS had on some Masterpiece Theater looking thing. My tiny attention span could never have handled that. Finally, at the end of my choices came "Extreme Makeover: Home Addition." Now, in an earlier post I related an experience that I had with the original Extreme Makeover show that involves people getting plastic surgery in order to solve all their problems. This was the first I had seen of this version of the show, where a huge team comes in and completely makes over homes of families who are desperately in need of it.
I only caught the last twenty minutes of the show, so I really can't speak with authority about the family but a few thoughts did occur to me while I was watching. The very nice featured family consisted of a pregnant mom, a dad and two boys. One boy seemed about four, the other seemed about two. The mom was pregnant with triplets. TRIPLETS.
This post is not about jealousy. I have never wanted more than two kids and the idea of having five kids under the age of 4 sounds like a fricking nightmare to me. But I couldn't help but wonder why Extreme Makeover and by default the American public celebrates this situation of pumping out as many babies as quickly as possible. Woo-hoo! good for them! They can make 5 babies in four years, they "deserve" to have their home completely redone to make room for their progeny. The Dad was going to have to take a second job to pay for everything, but now he has been saved! ABC to the rescue.
I have no idea whether the triplets were the result of any fertility drugs. Triplets are very rare, but she already had two kids, so who knows? As I said, I missed the first part of the show and the whole thing usually gets glossed over anyways (i.e. Julia Roberts.) But didn't these people know what they were doing when they were making babies? Even three kids in four years is a lot. What makes this family more deserving than a woman I know who was married to a borderline abusive alcoholic and is now the divorced mother of two children? It makes me crazy. The Extreme Makeover family is intact and even comes with a live-in mother-in-law to help with the child care. But because they are a great "human interest' story, they get the mega-bucks make-over.
I will admit, I've got a few population control issues. I know it's offensive to many people and I apologize in advance for stepping on any toes here. But who in this day and age really "needs" more than two biological kids? Especially American kids who on average consume something like 10x the amount of natural resources than kids in other countries. I think big families are great, but if you want one there are hundreds of thousands of kids already in existence that you can make a part of your very own family. As I've gotten older I've actually softened a little. I have a few friends that have three kids and they are such great parents. They are raising wonderful, sensitive and socially conscious children that (one hopes) will make the world a better place. But more than three kids... I really think adoption is in order.
Please don't yell at me. It's just what I believe, and noone listens to me anyways.
The other thing that bothered me about the Extreme Makeover show was the celebration of triplets specifically. Don't people know the risks involved with triplets? The birth defects? The long term medical issues? Health care costs? Triplets are not something to celebrate! They are something to avoid. I'm not saying they won't all be great kids, but it seems socially irresponsible to sugar coat the potential health issues.
The celebration in this country of multiples births is not limited to triplets or quads. A few years ago Melvin Mora of the Baltimore Orioles had quintuplets, or rather his wife did. I recently watched a baseball game where the announcers blathered on about his five kids and how great they were and what saints the Moras were for dealing with the quintuplets and their myriad of health issues. HELLO! What kind of irresponsible RE let that happen in the first place? I'm not even going to get into the reduction issue, because that's an extremely personal choice, but there are ways (besides reduction) to avoid dangerous pregnancies at the outset.
After the show was over, I turned off the TV and fumed about it all for a while. Now I've gotten it if off my chest. I'll get off my soapbox now.